The child is biting. This attack sooner or later may appear in the life of each family. It's pleasant in this certainly a little. Especially if there are no someone from the kid relatives, but a neighbor child or children from kindergarten. There are several reasons for such a situation. But they are all completely solved. The main thing is to understand your own offspring and stock patience to wean him from such an unpleasant lesson.
To prevent the sting in the meadow, the beach closes food in a sealed bowl or a bank. Do not give the child a sweet drink in an open cup, a jar or a bottle. There can fly empty insect. If you get drunk with your child's throat, the bite can cause swelling and choking.
If you want to place a child on a park bench or a bench on the grass, check it in advance whether there is an OSA or a bee. My junk is stuck in the pool, sunbathing bees. As soon as the bite disappears, check if he does not have a sting. Scratch them with a blunt blade or credit card. Place the sting on small ice cubes, and then cut down the bow, which neutralizes the poison. It will also help squeeze food soda when it will bite the bee and diluted vinegar when the scant-based axes.
Why does a child bite?
When you first encounter the fact that your baby began to squeeze his teeth on someone's flesh, appreciate the situation in which it happens. Depending on the age of the child, the reasons can be varied. And accordingly, the methods of combating biting should also be different. We will analyze each one separately:
If the wasps or bee are stuck in the throat, language or lips, put the ice cube in the mouth and caused ambulance Or as soon as possible went to the hospital. The same goes for anaphylactic shock. If you know that a child is allergic to bees or bees, take a subrenaline injection with adrenaline.
Medical consultation requires allergic reaction - Any change lasts more than 48 hours. Forest walks may end up biting the child ants. When you sit on the body from the scoop, small red traces, take the compress for a child with a solution food Soda. Control, whether traces in bubbles do not turn into a sign of an allergic reaction that you must consult with your doctor.
- If the baby is 5-7 months old, main reason In his bite - discomfort around the mouth or pain associated with teething. His main victims in this case are the next relatives. Often moms such kids complain that the child bits the chest. What to do in this case? Several options: Buy special plastic nozzles that will not prevent feeding and protect breasts from bites, smear nipples special tool For teething, which will facilitate the baby suffering. But taking into account the age of the child, sometimes you can simply be squeezed because the teetes associated with teething are almost inevitable.
- 8-14 months this is the time when the child bits with strong excitement. Emotions overwhelm the baby, and to cope with them, he puts all power in the bite. You can get rid of such a habit with the help of a child's distraction, a solid "no" or with the help of other relatives "offended" and show that it does not hurt and do it.
- At the age of 15-36 months parents face a problem when a child bites in children's garden. Such behavior is caused by the desire to submit to all others and control them. Moreover, the child himself bites and popping only with outsiders. He almost does not touch relatives. We can wean from bites at such age only by explaining to your choice that such behavior is unacceptable. In extreme cases, you need to teach the child to speak in words if something does not suit him. For example, such as: "I'm angry", "I don't want", "I am not satisfied", etc.
- If the child bites and holds after three years, it says that he is frightened or feels helpless. For example, if in a fight of two kids one feels more weaker, then such a child bites other children for self-defense purposes. Even if the bite became a provocation from another kid, you need to show your child to the doctor. It may well be that the child has problems with self-control or self-expression that may be neurological.
What if the child bites?
It is also worth remembering that sometimes the child bits mom or itself in a state of aggression. It can be caused by the fact that the child did not get the desired, cannot control the behavior of adults or is in an excited state. At the age of three years, only experts in the field of psychology and pedagogy can be biting. For kids younger age Bites are a normal phenomenon. And you can get rid of it in several ways:
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Child bites ants. Birth through bees, bees, horns, bumblebees. The child chewed ticks. It is worth choosing it for vaccination of the child. Always nursing mothers. There are areas where social norm It is long feeding - up to 4-6 years. The ancient Egyptians were advised to feed 2-3 years, Jews - 3 years. Maternal milk Keeps its value all the time. On the second, third year of feeding we are talking Not only about the satisfaction of mental needs, but also about that - but the food still satisfies nutritional needs: it still contains proteins, fats, antibodies, vitamins and minerals, thereby nevertheless is a nutrient food.
Remember that the child copies your behavior and even the expression of the face. Provide him favorable conditions for harmonious development And surround him caress and care. Then problems with bites will never touch you.
In a year old, children often bite parents for the cheek. When their teeth are cut, they are ready to bite everything, especially if you feel fatigue.
How many families, how many children, so many farewell options. Nevertheless, the emotional storm always passes through the house. The feeling of loss, rejection, disappointment, despair, danger can affect both the child and the mother. There are children who refuse to feed themselves. Of course, such a decision of the child should be well reviewed. Because the child who turns away from the chest after 3 months, consciously does not do it. But if a 11-month-old child is less interested in feeding during the day, he uses only the most beloved, and once in the morning he prefers eating food and sleeps in a plush bear before bedtime and turns to the wall - that is, he decided.
If at the age of 1-2 years one child will bite the other, be it "in a friendly" or from anger, this is also not a reason for concern. Children of this age still do not know how to express feelings with words, so splashing their emotions with a more primitive way like biting. In addition, they are not yet able to put themselves in place of offended and do not realize how hurts it.
Then the problem with feelings may have a mother, which was suddenly "rejected", stopped being gourmet. Until now, indispensable, expected - can now replace his father, which will make a delicious sandwich. The only advice is to accept that time flows, and another person enters the path of self-confidence.
Although the feeding process can end naturally, many mothers want to stop feeding on early stage. It is not always dictated by a higher necessity, but thousands of reasons: fatigue, affection, shame, desire to give birth to a child and even the belief that he will eat or sleep better or that he is "too large" to suck the mother's chest. Sometimes their mother does not even know why they, they only feel that they want to stop feeding. However, it is worth paying attention to the fact that it is a real reason for the desire to abandon feeding.
Parents in this case should say a solid tone: "So it is impossible! It hurts!" - And pull the child with knees to the floor or pick it up from a group of playing children. He just needs to make it clear that you don't like behavior, even if he is still too small to understand myself why it is.
The baby begins to bite out of simple curiosity. He is interested to see what will happen if during feeding he will bite the mother's chest? Most often, the mother reacts very bright and emotionally, which was required by crumb. The child does not argue up to a year: "I'll bite you now, and you will hurt." He behaves directly without thinking about the consequences. But as the biting growing becomes more and more conscious.
What sensible reasons cause such a decision? To make a solution for both parties well, and not hastily, under the influence of instantaneous emotions. How many women want to stop feeding during the inflammation of the breast! And in terms of the process of treating this disease, this is the worst possible moment for such a solution.
To find out your true motive for feeding, respond to the following questions. What is most tormented by me in feeding: frequency, length, night feeding And intermittent sleep, you need to eat publicly, the behavior of my child during feeding? Is the refusal of a certain amount of feeding - maybe public, maybe night, that is, partial care, will he satisfy you? Does anyone offer you?
- If you could eliminate the problem, can you still feed it?
- How convinced that after the confrontation, the current problems will disappear?
- You take the picture big child On breasts
So why do children bite between the ages of the year to three? First of all, it may be an old habit that has consolidated since the kid has a teeth. However, much more often is the situation when the child is trying to express his emotions or achieve something.
Some believe that the easiest and effective method Fighting this bad habit - bite in response. In my practice there were cases when the parents came exactly that the child really stopped biting, but not because he understood how bad it was, but only from fear. He knew: if he bit him, bite him and he would hurt him. I agree, you can truly achieve good behavior in this way - but what price? Having dropped at the level of the child's aggression, equalizing himself with him. Do not be surprised if, as a result of this upbringing, he will lose respect for adults and will not see the difference between them and its peers.
First you think that when you stop the breast, all your problems will disappear. And then, after you have done a successful setting, you regret and cheat when your baby does not reach the heat of your neck. Many mothers experience severe affection for breastfeeding, but most often they reach them when they leave the child. The storm of contradictory feelings leads to the fact that some mothers are not consistent during failure. Two days are effective in finishing feeding, and the third - when the baby is despite - softened.
Think good, you will not regret, do you keep it? If the child is so badly connected to the breast, the sudden waste will be difficult. For: Nering-Gugulsk M. Zhukovsk-Rubik M. Pitkevich A.: breastfeeding in theory and practice. Directory for nursing consultants and consultants, midwives, nurses and doctors. How do you imagine your child's reaction for full care? Each child is different, because each sucking of the chest can have a different meaning. Children are very independent, brave, open for the whole world, but there are children, very sensitive, terrible, clinging for the mint's skirt.
What if your baby got used to solve controversial issues with the help of teeth? First of all, analyze, in what situations it bites most often. When does he not give something? When does not pay attention to him? When is something forbidden? Bodying is a manifestation of aggression. Suppose you noticed that your baby thus struggles for the right to play with other people's toys. Then, before going out to the street, spend a preventive conversation: "Let's agree that you won't bite anyone on the site. If you want to play with someone else's toy, you just ask or offer to change. As soon as I see that you want to bite someone, we will leave the playground and we will walk alone. " Perhaps the child wants to check how serious your intentions are. Even if the site does not arise conflict situationHe will provoke her solely to see if you keep your word. And here it is necessary to show hardness. Do what they promised, - take it off the site. If this is not done, then in the future there will be no leadership levers you will have - he will simply not take your words seriously.
Some view the chest as a "plate" and are always ready to change it to another. For many others, the chest is the most expensive hug and a source of mental balance. Breast-feeding mourn. In addition to the development of each child, regardless of nature, there are noticeable periods of increased demand for suction, such as teething, moving, voltage at home. Therefore, planning to leave, should look at the question about the eyes of a child to stop him from the breast at this moment, not for him too big shock and loss.
Many children before biting, are creepy, as crucible. If you watch carefully for a walk for your baby, you can catch this moment and clamping his mouth with his hand: "Remember what we agreed about? You do not bite. "
It happens that the child plays, portraying some animal. It hits, growls, scratched and bites. Watch, in what situations the baby begins to play this game. Maybe he resorts to it only in communicating with other children to express his aggression, which he is forbidden to demonstrate openly. Or maybe he is just fond of and biting from an excess of feelings.
Finally, it's time to make a decision. Dear Mom, you have a choice: partial care, sudden seizure and planned care. Partial deprivation is good when it is believed that this is enough to eliminate feeding or behavior, the most tedious for the mother or leave those feeding, which are especially important for the child. For some children, especially working mothers, night feeding is extremely important.
Sudden waste is usually forced as a result of an emergency situation, sometimes unsuccessful in the planned failure. Mom says: I have enough of these stakes, today and already! It is very difficult, requires constant chest control, because it threatens stagnants, and after stopping the feeding of the child, the mother has to deal with excess milk obtained by drainage, and sometimes even prevent drug lactation. Emotional problems can be emotional: depression, depression.
If the kid bites you
When it was about breast childI advised not to submit the kind that it hurts you, at all in no way respond to his actions. Now tactics must change fundamentally. The graceful child is very dependent on the mood of the parents. He already understands that mom can experience different feelingsAnd it is afraid to upset her. Therefore, do not hide that it hurts you that you are literally crying. He will understand your emotions. It will even be less likely to hypertrophore them: "Oh, how hurts me! Look, now I will have a bruise. You upset me very much. "
If your child is less than 12 months old, you must supplement the diet of your child with modified milk. Planned waste - this method is most similar to the natural process of feeding finishing. It does not threaten problems with breasts, allowing both parties to gradually be in the new situation. This includes reset one channel for two, three or more days.
Do not impose yourself. Cake only when the child clearly expresses it. Wear such outfits that make it difficult to access your chest, for example, a long, deployed dress. Do not awaken the association. For example, do not sit down some time on the chair, where you usually feed the breast; Avoid keeping a child in a position for feeding. Some feed is less important - start with their liquidation early. With channels that are more important than others, go out at the end of the failure.
If your sad face does not stop, and he continues to bite, it means it is time to take a special place in the apartment where it will go every time it will not hold back. It can be a bench, sofa, carpet. Hug a baby and tell me: "I love you very much, but it hurts me. I don't want you to hurt me. Go, sit in another room, calm down. " - "I do not want. I will not be anymore. " - "Wouldn't you be? Then let's put up. But if you do so again, you will have to go to the sofa. " It is very important not to deprive the child at this moment of his love. He should not feel that you ignore it. Your "sit and calm down" should not sound threatening, should not look like a punishment. It's just a timeout that you give the child to come to my senses. At the same time, it is completely meaningless to say: "Go and think about how you behave." The child is not yet able to reflect on his behavior and evaluate it from the point of view of ethics and morality.
Delay. Tell me that the breast will be later, for example, in the evening. This method works for children older than 1, 5 years, because they will not understand and will only be nervous. At the younger, laying out feeding, distracting. Reduce the feed time. Five ten minutes enough to eat. Quickly offer a little pleasure. Leave one feed as much as you want - before bedtime. Think about something that you can do together at the time when you usually have the feeding you want to eliminate.
This will help your child forget about the chest and at the same time establish that your chest will not lose you. Attractive food. Remember that the hunger is very much reminiscent of the baby. During the feeding, which you are going to eliminate, give an interesting, delicious dish. Do not do it when it comes to night feeding.
Sometimes the habit of biting helps to get rid of ... rubber toy. Every time the baby is going to bite someone, stretch this toy to him: "Kusai". - "I do not want". "And we don't want you to bite people." Thus, you give the child the opportunity to throw out emotions without causing anyone harm, and, that is especially important, you will fix it on what he does. After all, the baby on the second and even on the third year of life can not always control his behavior, often he first triggers the impulse - bite, and then the realization of what he did. A rubber toy becomes a kind of simulator who helps him learn to think first, and then act.
Discussion. Even a child who does not say may well understand the problem. Therefore, it is worth finding a clear argument, for example, by analogy with an event. Because sucking the chest satisfies the need of your child in your proximity and tenderness, do not pour it now.
Imagine new ways of dressing: Bed linen, ordinary swing in the chair, tights on the knee. Decide what to do with night feeding. It happens that the mother mainly depends on the cancellation of night feeding. It is enough to make a partial output. But it also happens that mom, working only in the evening and at night, has the ability to feed the child. Depending on your situation: to leave or gradually refuse night feed. Night, managed by other laws, the aforementioned methods do not work.
If your child was bitten another child
So it happened. The kid crying loudly, showing his mother traces of teeth on the handle. Your actions?
The first impulse of the parent - to pounce on his child and punish it. The desire is quite understandable, but do not rush to follow him! Think what such a reaction behaves? Instead of teaching a child to control their behavior, you yourself teach him a lesson aggression: you bitten - I found you. It turns out that it is impossible to bite, and you can beat. Do you want to bring this truth to your baby?
But there are several others to limit night suction. Sleeping outside the house for several days - Mother Mother. There is dad in the house, and the child, waking up at night, does not find the chest or with us. Dad or grandmother get up at night and head their baby, swinging, hugging, drinking.
Mom gets up, but she does not give her her chest. Tuli, rock, lay with him. It is worth watching the behavior of the child, because sometimes the removal process is too fast or was taken too early. This is evidenced by the following problems: frequent awakening, stuttering, whining, sucks an example of angular sheets, finger, like a plush teddy bear, an enlarged fear of separation from the mother, nibble nails, aggressiveness in relation to brothers and sisters. In such a situation, you need to consider slowing down or slowing the action for some time.
I suggest here to follow the tactics that we talked about in the previous chapter, to deprive your child's attention and send to offended. Come to the bite and apologize, say what your child is hard to express in words: "Sasha (Dima, Peter) offended you. It hurts you. I am very sorry, and I apologize for him. Yes, he entered very badly. Let me call your mom. Here I have a handkerchief. Come on the tears to you womb. " If you are familiar with a bustted child and he trusts you, you can hug it. Your baby will hurt to see it, perhaps he will pay. But at the same time I will understand: "If I bite other children, my mother will pay attention to them, and not on me." In addition, you will show your example to him what to do if he suddenly offended someone - it is necessary to approach, apologize and try to correct the mistake.
Bodying in children older
If a child bitts aged 2 to 3 years old, you must define for yourself how often it happens, and give an assessment of the child's behavior as a whole. If the child constantly looks tense and dissatisfied and often bites other children, it is a sign that something is wrong with him. Perhaps it is too often punished and wrapped at home. Or he did not have opportunities to get used to the society of other children and he believes that they are dangerous and can threaten him. Maybe he is experiencing jealousy towards his youngest brother or sister and splashing his fear and insult on other children, considering them by the same rivals.
If biting is accompanied by other aggressive actions, it is a symptom of a more serious problem that deserves much more attention than the bodging itself.
Usually quite healthy and normal emerging child Suddenly he may unexpectedly bite someone. This is a completely natural stage of development that is not no psychological problem. However, many parents are bothering, because they fear that the villain will grow in the future from their quiet and relaxed child. Bodying is just a certain stage of development, through which even the most kind and affectionate children pass.
What to do so that the child does not bite
First of all, you need to be able to prevent such cases. If you have noticed that the child bite in some specific situations, then it is necessary that some of the adults be next to him next to him. If a child often experiences disappointment and stress, as it is, for example, the smallest and weak among children or because you are inconsistent in your requirements, think about making changes to his daily life.
Try to pay more attention to him in those moments when he behaves well. After all, parents often pay close attention to children just when they break something or bite someone. It will be much more useful if the attention of parents will be a reward for good behavior.
If you see that dissatisfaction is growing in the child, distract it with something. If the child has already grown enough, you can choose the time and discuss this problem with him, asking him to think about how it hurts, and what else he can take when he feels the desire to bite someone.
If the child has already managed to bite someone, then attention should be paid primarily to the affected kid, ignoring the "aggressor". Soothing offended by hard tone tell your child that you do not like his behavior, and demand that he never did anymore. And then sit next to him for a while he will digest said. Take him by the hand or hug so that he does not escape from you. Try to avoid long morals.
Is it possible to bite the child in response?
Some parents who have experienced bits little child, Ask, can you bite it in response. I believe that parents must be parents, and not to descend to the level of the baby and not respond to his bad behavior of bite, slap or scream. In addition, if you bite or smash a small child, he will most likely answer you the same as it will decide that this is a game. In addition, he might think that if you allow yourself such behavior, then it is possible to him. It is best to prevent a re-bite, remove the child from ourselves as soon as you notice the characteristic shine in his eyes, and it is clear to let him understand that you don't like such behavior and you do not intend to allow it.
Biting after three years
Usually, children stop biting to three years or a little later. To this age, the child is able to take advantage of words to express their desires and feelings. In addition, he is already better able to control himself.
If the child continues to bite, it may be a sign of a fairly serious development problem. In this case you will help you experienced doctor or another specialist.
